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by Bobbi Gay
Emotional
energy is just that, it is a wave or waves of sensation accompanied by some
movement of energy. As I said earlier it is common for negative emotional
energy to get trapped due to self suggestion, ex. "This isn't happening!"
Other factors that come into play are squeezing the muscles and containing
the breath. This slows down emotional energy causing it to go out of awareness.
But, it doesn't go away. It lies there in a congested form. I suspect from
my own observations and those of energy worker's I highly respect, that
it gets encapsulated. When the body is
given a toxin or other substance that it can't process and release, it forms
a capsule around it as a self protective measure. During a fast or other
cleansing the body's own intelligence kicks in and the whole thing may be
expelled. Well as we all know nature repeats good strategies. I sense the
structure around the stuck energy has a membrane, once that membrane is
penetrated, [through vibration] things start to speed up. That is largely
because you as a self healer hold the intention to release what no longer
serves you. Rather than repressing, you are using your ever powerful INTENTION
to reverse the process. When a person is
working consciously with this kind or process, their job is to allow. After
asking for the guidance and help of your Higher Self and/or angelic assistance,
get out of the way and let the feeling come up. Invariably as you focus
inside you will notice sensation and movement. That is the compressed energy
seeking to express and release. It may take a few weeks of focused attention
inward before you begin to notice sensations. That is because sensation
has been blocked for so many years. Gently ask your body to show you it's
wisdom. If you can't get
the energy moving through allowance then it becomes time to deepen the breath.
This means to hold an intention of releasing the emotion while taking a
slow breath in and a slow breath out. Deepen the sensation of breathing
to include the solar plexus, and eventually the belly all the way down to
the pubic bone. At this point the energy might well cause constriction and
a definite sense of tightening. That is a good sign that your body knows
how to release. Breathe a little more aggressively into the tightened area.
You can image that each breath irradiates the congested material with light.
It often helps when working deeply to lie down and have a spiritual buddy.
Once the energetic
pattern is constellated you can release or shatter it by many methods all
of which I have used on myself and clients at one time or another. Human
INTENTION is at the center of this mystery. The following techniques
can be used to release energetic congestion: Once one has released
the emotion of an event or whatever, it becomes time to understand what
it meant. Quite often after releasing the person feels expanded and soul
infused. In this consciousness they may see a broader or deeper learning
that at the time seems to justify the pain. This is a general trend, not
a rule. If you don't feel that way it's okay. What is more important is
that you feel congruent within yourself, that yes this thing happened, and
this is what it currently means to me. Allow yourself to know what you actually
think about the meaning. If you would like
to deepen the learning further you can ask yourself what it is you might
have come to believe as a result of this incident. As I mentioned earlier
high adrenaline levels encode information about the event. What you were
believing at the time goes right into the tissues. After a release it is
a good time to ask inner being to show you if any false beliefs were formed.
See yourself releasing the old belief like a dove from your hands. Call
your power back from that belief and see it settle up and down your spine.
Many people feel this quite clearly. Finally restate the new belief and
broadcast it internally to all the tissues, and bones. It is not necessary
to do this part for a release of emotional energy to occur, and often when
the pent up energy is released things just naturally improve without having
to do a process like this. The reason why I mention it is because in the
case of very deeply held trauma, because of the adrenaline and other stress
hormones the thoughts that were in the mind at the time of the trauma get
encoded as beliefs. This can result in the encoding of many limiting beliefs.
An example might be a female incest victim may well encode negative generalizations
about all men, touch, personal boundaries, and denial. I think if these
beliefs aren't changed out either naturally and automatically, in the healing
process, or deliberately in a process such as previously described, they
will repeat in one of two ways. Either they will broadcast from a deep yet
unresolved place, this requires more work. Or they will be re instituted
through self talk. I address this in detail in the chapter entitled, Poor
Mental Hygiene. In the case of still
held stuff, if the less expressive vibrational methods don't work I go to
catharsis. The fully expressed release of old emotion. In some cases this
may require an abreaction or reliving of old trauma. If that is what comes
up when the person allows the feelings to arise, I then assume that it still
contains lessons that can only be fully released when a lesson is integrated.
This is how the inner being guides things. If something keeps emerging whether
it's a symptom, a thought, or and issue, it's because something needs to
be integrated. When that happens, it will release. I'll give an example
here as an illustration. Suppose we have someone who can't take care of
themselves in this world by setting appropriate boundaries. When confronted
with power she just collapses or backs down. She may clear out an instance
in grade school of being abused by a bully. After the session she may notice
improvement with boundaries, yet the problem still exists. The clue for
me would be that during the bully incident, in her remembering of it, she
never even attempted to defend herself. That suggests to me that a strongly
held belief such as, "I can't fight back." exists. It is purely instinctual
to fight back. In a case like
this I might suggest asking her Higher Self to take her back to the originating
point of the belief. She might then find herself being sat on and choked
by a malicious older sibling, as a two year old. If she breathes deeply
and allows the memory to come up she may get in touch with words or a feeling
tone that was repeating at the time of the incident. In this case it may
be a generalized feeling of overall helplessness. The two year old might
not be repeating words to herself while being choked. Yet a three year old
might easily encode something like, " I can't fight back. It's no use." In the case of the
two year old it may require expressing a sound such as a scream, or a word,
such as NO !!!!!! While the energy from the bully incident was released,
the energy of the choking is still pent up. As it finds expression a great
deal of the lousy feeling tone will tend to resolve. It might not all clear
in one session, but there will be notable improvement, you will know you're
on the right track. In the case of an older child or adult, there might
be insight into how this incident was formative for many subsequent problems.
This is part of what I mean by integration. To know what happened. How it
felt, and what it means. There might be insight into what the core beliefs
were that formed around this incident. The reliving also tends to strongly
empower the individual. Our illustration person has confronted a deep fear
and that is both exhilarating and personally empowering. At this point I
might hand her a copy of the book, No is a Complete Sentence. I would suggest
that she heighten her awareness around the issue of boundaries. I would
ask her to self observe and if she's willing, to pattern bust. In this case
that would mean taking the risk and setting some boundaries. If it turns
out well, I ask her to focus on it. If it doesn't, I ask her to honor herself
for interrupting the pattern. This is the way the bigger shifts are made. I use many gentle,
vibrational approaches in my work. Yet there are times when nothing short
of full expression seems to do it. I believe that sometimes the person's
energy field has to recapitulate the amplitude of the original event in
order to release something. Yet, I see this all as so benevolent, because
the person who has to feel it fully, is probably the very one who needs
to heal her relationship to her own emotions. We can't be fully
human without being fully feeling. I remember feeling somehow strangely
removed from my own life. I remember wondering why things failed to effect
me emotionally. I had suppressed too much and with it went my joy and connection
to my life experience In a very real way our emotional challenges can be
thought of as intiatory. They cause us to reach in deeper and pull out more
of who we are. I also can't help
but notice, that when people really allow emotion and feelings they evoke
such love from my heart. We are most lovable when we are most real, and
emotions make you real. The quality of essence can be felt when someone
is feeling fully. In the training I've had I've watched how it affects people.
It is very bonding to share strong emotion, and it evokes tenderness in
others. People often thank another for modeling that it's okay to feel.
There is a difference
between expressing anger in a contained and loving process, and blasting
those around you. It's the projection of the feelings onto others, that
give emotional expression a bad name. It is the dumping of childhood rage
upon someone who merely activated old repressed and unfinished stuff that
causes so much quaking. When someone works inwardly with their anger, I
feel admiration. How brave to face something and not perpetuate the cycle
of pain by out picturing it. At this point I'd like
to mention some of the many forms release of emotional energy might take: All of the above represent
the movement of energy that is attempting to free itself from compression.
It literally has force and momentum behind it. For anyone who sees this
type of thing, it is obvious that emotional energy is real. It is also obvious
that releasing pent up emotion is often a pleasurable life experience when
all is said and done. Even at the height of my pain, I was simultaneously
aware of a part of me that seemed to be quietly affirming, " This is good.
" People remark about that often. I think it's important
to stress a few things here. Extreme forms of catharsis, are not advisable
in certain instances: We need to remind ourselves
frequently, how emotionally repressive our whole culture is. We would rather
go to a movie and watch actors have emotions, that way if we feel too much
we can claim it was the movie. You can tell a lot about your personal themes
by looking at what movie events " hit " you with regularity. Of course abandonment
is always preeminent. Everybody remembers Bambi's mother. As you become emotionally
expressive you will feel good and want your new state to be embraced by
others. We are just evolving into these understandings now, some of us have
to go first. But don't expect a welcoming party. People will frown, shun,
attack, actively suppress, interrupt, cajole, threaten and a whole lot more.
That is because when your emotion moves, my emotion gets vibrationally entrained
and starts to move. This causes alarm from either a subconscious level,
or from a more aware one. Either way the person who incites it gets blamed
on the emotional level. I say emotional level, because on an intellectual
level you may be all right, yet you still feel irritated at Other. Kids
stir up everybody's unresolved emotions, and they pay a heavy price for
it, some pay with their lives. The fact that we are interconnected in this
way is threatening to many who need to feel separate. Even though it isn't
something we appreciate, it does demonstrate our inherent interconnectedness. Empathy is our awareness
of the connections. When I work with people, I let myself attune to what
they are feeling, then I pull back with information about what they need.
People with a poorly developed sense of self have trouble attuning to others.
Their own inner states, particularly painful ones demand attention or suppression.
This accounts for the extraordinary insensitivity some people demonstrate.
We need to be able to feel the connections without fear of losing self.
That is how to bring peace to our precious Earth mother We do that by identifying
with big Self. Empathy is a highly
desirable evolved trait. Yet, too much empathy is not a good thing. Some
people put others before self and that never works. It works best to allow
yourself to attune, then breath a few centering breaths and focus on pulling
your energy back, settling it up and down the spine. Then you can drop your
mind down into your heart area and begin communication. This means you actually
accept that your heart has a higher way of processing, and you willingly
align your mind with that. Deep work such as
heavy abandonment, sexual abuse or infancy stuff shouldn't be done alone
unless you are very self aware and experienced with the wide range of phenomena
that emerges. I alluded to this before, but releasing stuck emotional energy
sometimes means allowing the past experience to replay. This tends to be
in bits and pieces rather than a logical sequence. What is so striking is
that these memories are characterized by full sensory detail. This reminds
me of a story from my breathwork training that illustrates the point. A
friend of mine had been working with a sexual abuse survivor. At the lunch
break she sought him out and verbally upbraided him for wearing the very
same cologne as her abuser had. My friend wore no cologne at all, during
the internal experience, her senses were recapitulating the constellation
of elements present during the original event. As she cellularly relived
the experience she had an olfactory memory of the cologne. Interestingly
enough, my friend recognized that it was empowering for her to express anger
and a boundary at that particular moment, and he willingly accepted the
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