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Emotional Factoids III
Understanding Emotions

by Bobbi Gay


20. Fear is a big bad boogie man! Most of the time when we face our fears, we come out empowered. Ancient mystery schools focused heavily on this fact. Empowerment feels good. There is often a pleasure cascade in the brain when we successfully move through our fear and exercise CHOICE. For a better understanding see Pleasure Connection in our Books section. Even my most anxious client's acknowledge that less than one in ten times does the feared thing manifest.

21. Emotions are most likely to go out of control when we continually suppress them. If you push it away with force, it will come back with force. If you accept it and love yourself as best you can it will release. It is the events that drive a wedge between us and inner being that keeps returning. That is because we must deal with a lesson.

22. Releasing emotion can be very refreshing and enlivening. A typical couple's pattern is that when things feel too dead for too long somebody picks a fight. There is some catharsis, then the couple rebonds as they enjoy the enlivening effect. Make up sex!

23. If you are interested in shaping your own life through manifestation you need to know that emotional energy is the rocket fuel for creating in that way. If you are picturing a certain future, and you are broadcasting doubt and fear mixed in with hope, nothing big will happen. If you have a clear vision and only a little doubt more will happen. If you hold clear intention and body/mind/spirit and emotions are all feeling good it's as if it's already come. Once again unfinished emotion keeps you stuck, but if you use that as information it will tell you exactly what needs attention. Ex. The inner child may not believe she can manifest - directly working with her will bring alignment

24. Emotional release is often held back by muscular tensions so the next time you are suppressing an emotion begin to notice how you are tightening your body, I rarely cried in my early life. I was stoic, when I realized I needed to grieve, I did this type of self-observation. I noticed all my throat muscles would tighten, my eyes would squeeze shut, my jaw would clench and I would incline my head in a certain way. That's enough information to bust the pattern. I set my intention to pick up on these signs, when I did I would soften the tissues involved, particularly in the throat. This worked quickly because I had already done the mental work of changing the belief to one that honored crying. These days I cry at the drop of a hat and it has become a vehicle for feeling my humanity. It cleanses me and expresses my soul.

25. Several things facilitate emotional release:

  • Adopting an attitude of surrendering to the feeling.

  • Asking Inner Being for guidance and strength to "be with" your feelings. I do this by focusing on my heart center and inviting my Higher Self to join my heart and help me to release deeply but gently. I ask for angelic assistance also, because angelic energy is particularly nurturing

  • Remind yourself that what you resist persists
  • Noticing what tightens when you start to feel, release the contraction by feeling buttery in the area of constriction this works best when combined with deep breathing.

  • The emotional material gets buried when the breath is constricted so it makes perfect sense that by deep breathing and allowing, it will come back up. It is helpful to make the distinction between having a feeling and being the feeling. You are allowing emotional energy to express by way of the body.

  • Lying down to release greatly facilitates the process; this seems to be for several reasons first because it eases some of the muscularized tension. Secondly it takes great energy to hold the body upright; this energy can be redirected into the process of release. Last of all it allows for a physicalized expression of surrender. What works best is to lie on the back with nothing crossed and palms upward to signify openness. When working with grief or other heart congestion it is some times helpful to put a small but fairly hard pillow between the wing bones in the back. The extra pressure helps to open the chest area energetically, which in turn allows for more emotional energy to flow.


26. Emotions are often experienced in a cluster, we feel most crazy when we fail to breakdown an overwhelming cluster of emotions into its constituent parts and identify them. For example I may be angry with my partner, frustrated, sad because things were going so well and desiring a feeling of reconciliation. If I can identify each feeling and be comfortable with the fact that these things seem to clash, there is an easing. I want a hug and I wish I could just belt him as well. I'm just human and this is a human experience.

27. Some studies have shown that anger tends to build upon itself, which can perpetuate a cycle. In other words it is challenging to get a full release doing rage work. Release would imply letting go, there are some helpful guidelines here. If you don't usually get angry and that pattern isn't working for you, you probably need the empowerment that anger can bring. If however you are perpetually angry and frustrated, you may need to go beneath the anger to the heart pain to effect a letting go.



  1. Working effectively with emotions was the single most freeing part of my own journey. For this reason I have studied emotions for thirteen years now. I've put a lot of love into the tape set called Understanding Your Emotions This is meant to be a user's Guide for the Emotions.

  2. Asking yourself, "What must I be believing in order to feel this way?" is enormously helpful. Sometimes the realization that you are carrying an outdated belief is all that is needed to create positive change. For help in shifting belief patterns please see the article entitled, Process for Shifting Limiting Beliefs.

  3. Begin to notice the sensations within your body that characterize emotions. Name the feeling. This is a simple intervention that bridges back to emotional health.

  4. The book entitled Emotional Clearing : Releasing Negative Feelings and Awakening Unconditional Happiness by John Ruskan is a helpful introduction to working effectively with emotion. In Association with Amazon.com

  5. The book entitled Conscious Breathing : Breathwork for Health, Stress Release, and Personal Mastery by Gay Hendricks gives profoundly helpful advice and guidance for using the breath to release as well as rebalance. Many will find it easier and get more value from the audio tape. In Association with Amazon.com

  6. Our Acorn Solution called Emergency Blend will support any deep releasing process. It removes shock from the energy field, and body. Then Emergency Blend helps you to rebalance. Add2cart

  7. Working with shame is some of the most difficult work I know of. For working with shame I would recommend Shame Less Blend.Add2cart I feel it's important to know that shame is one of the emotions that really tends to heighten before release. For this reason good support is sometimes needed. Shame is not only very painful, but it causes blind spots that interfere with self acceptance, insights and integration. If you work with shame and feel the need for a little help please consider using the phone services on this site. I have a lot of experience in helping people ease through this most difficult process. For a better understanding of how systemmically shame diminishes life we suggest reading Healing the Shame That Binds You by John Bradshaw. In Association with Amazon.com

  8. Grief tends to cause a loss of vitality and connection to life. Our Acorn Solution called Grief Relief Blend will begin to lift it right out. The description we provide will help you to work effectively with this process. For me in my life grief was a big one for that reason I know that the person in grief often needs tenderness and so for that reason my phone services might be advisible and very comforting. Add2cart

  9. For those working with the toxic emotions produced by sexual violation I strongly recommend Reach for the Rainbow : Advanced Healing for Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Lynne D. Finney. In Association with Amazon.com

  10. Sometimes working intensively with strong emotions can be ungrounding. We can feel rocked at the core and nervous and accident prone. In such cases I recommend Grounding Blend, even if you don't purchase the product please read the description of the blend for helpful information. Add2cart

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