Emotional Factoids III
Understanding Emotions

24. Emotional release is often held back by muscular tensions so the next time you are suppressing an emotion begin to notice how you are tightening your body, I rarely cried in my early life. I was stoic, when I realized I needed to grieve, I did this type of self-observation. I noticed all my throat muscles would tighten, my eyes would squeeze shut, my jaw would clench and I would incline my head in a certain way. That's enough information to bust the pattern. I set my intention to pick up on these signs, when I did I would soften the tissues involved, particularly in the throat. This worked quickly because I had already done the mental work of changing the belief to one that honored crying. These days I cry at the drop of a hat and it has become a vehicle for feeling my humanity. It cleanses me and expresses my soul.

25. Several things facilitate emotional release:

 

26. Emotions are often experienced in a cluster, we feel most crazy when we fail to breakdown an overwhelming cluster of emotions into its constituent parts and identify them. For example I may be angry with my partner, frustrated, sad because things were going so well and desiring a feeling of reconciliation. If I can identify each feeling and be comfortable with the fact that these things seem to clash, there is an easing. I want a hug and I wish I could just belt him as well. I'm just human and this is a human experience.

27. Some studies have shown that anger tends to build upon itself, which can perpetuate a cycle. In other words it is challenging to get a full release doing rage work. Release would imply letting go, there are some helpful guidelines here. If you don't usually get angry and that pattern isn't working for you, you probably need the empowerment that anger can bring. If however you are perpetually angry and frustrated, you may need to go beneath the anger to the heart pain to effect a letting go.

 

Resources:

1. Working effectively with emotions was the single most freeing part of my own journey. For this reason I have studied emotions for thirteen years now. I've put a lot of love into the tape set called Understanding Your Emotions This is meant to be a user's Guide for the Emotions.
   
   
2. Asking yourself, "What must I be believing in order to feel this way?" is enormously helpful. Sometimes the realization that you are carrying an outdated belief is all that is needed to create positive change. For help in shifting belief patterns please see the article entitled, Process for Shifting Limiting Beliefs.
   
   
3. Begin to notice the sensations within your body that characterize emotions. Name the feeling. This is a simple intervention that bridges back to emotional health.
   
   
4. The book entitled Emotional Clearing : Releasing Negative Feelings and Awakening Unconditional Happiness by John Ruskan is a helpful introduction to working effectively with emotion.
   
   
5. The book entitled Conscious Breathing : Breathwork for Health, Stress Release, and Personal Mastery by Gay Hendricks gives profoundly helpful advice and guidance for using the breath to release as well as rebalance. Many will find it easier and get more value from the audio tape.
   
   
6. Our Acorn Solution called Emergency Blend will support any deep releasing process. It removes shock from the energy field, and body. Then Emergency Blend helps you to rebalance.
   
   
7. Working with shame is some of the most difficult work I know of. For working with shame I would recommend Shame Less Blend. I feel it's important to know that shame is one of the emotions that really tends to heighten before release. For this reason good support is sometimes needed. Shame is not only very painful, but it causes blind spots that interfere with self acceptance, insights and integration. If you work with shame and feel the need for a little help please consider using the phone services on this site. I have a lot of experience in helping people ease through this most difficult process. For a better understanding of how systemmically shame diminishes life we suggest reading Healing the Shame That Binds You by John Bradshaw.
   
   
8. Grief tends to cause a loss of vitality and connection to life. Our Acorn Solution called Grief Relief Blend will begin to lift it right out. The description we provide will help you to work effectively with this process. For me in my life grief was a big one for that reason I know that the person in grief often needs tenderness and so for that reason my phone services might be advisible and very comforting.
   
   
9. For those working with the toxic emotions produced by sexual violation I strongly recommend Reach for the Rainbow : Advanced Healing for Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Lynne D. Finney.
   
   
10. Sometimes working intensively with strong emotions can be ungrounding. We can feel rocked at the core and nervous and accident prone. In such cases I recommend Grounding Blend, even if you don't purchase the product please read the description of the blend for helpful information.